Knowing When to Let Go
We’ve talked about transition and the emotions that come with moving into a new season. But what about the moments that come before transition, when we are called to let go?
Before we can transition, we have to let go of old habits, patterns of thinking, and behaviors. Holding onto shame doesn’t leave much room for the freedom of a new season. Carrying the bones of a dead relationship makes it difficult to love others and cultivate connection. We often cling to things, hoping to squeeze out the last moments of pleasure, afraid that what comes after won’t be as good.
The disciples carried this burden. They wanted to hold onto their teacher and friend, but Jesus called them to let go. When His time was coming to an end, He began preparing them (John 13-17). In John 14:27-28, Jesus comforts the disciples by telling them,
“I am leaving you with a gift, peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid. Remember what I told you: I am going away, but I will come back to you again…”
The disciples needed not to fear what they were letting go because there was something beautiful on the other side. Had they resisted, they would have forfeited the power of the Holy Spirit and release into their purpose.
Daughter, there is something beautiful on the other side of your release as well.
Here’s a few signs it may be time to let go:
You’re trying too hard.
My mom always says there’s no use trying to fit a round peg in a square hole. If you’re spending extra effort trying to keep a person, place, or thing in your life then it may be time to let it go.
Others can see things aren’t working.
Trusted friends and family can be invaluable if you’re unsure about letting go. If they tell you something isn’t beneficial in this season, believe them and let it go.
You’re spending more time with the Lord.
When our intentional time with the Lord increases through prayer and Scripture reading, we begin to mature. We start to outgrow certain activities and people. If you feel that some things don’t bring the same peace, it may be time to take inventory and let it go.
Everything - people, places, and things - has an expiration. Trust that the Lord has a plan when He calls you to let go. Remember that everything works together for good (Romans 8:28). Take heart, knowing that God holds your future and desires the best for you.